This is one of those drawings that are not easy for me to post. I know all the cards we received over the years were not meant to hurt me (even though they did), and I do not mean to hurt back. Still, a lot of hearts are aching at Christmas and I wish more people would understand that. This was and is my way of spreading the word.
I just love this one! I know what you mean- I don't mean to hurt because of their happiness, but I still do. This is touching thanks for sharing and for reminding us that we aren't the only ones with those emotions!
ReplyDeleteThank you Kasey for stopping by! In Finland this drawing raised a lot of aggression which was not easy to read. A friend told me then not to worry, that she was sure, that "next Christmas all those people yelling at you will think of greeting cards differently". Keeping that in mind.
DeleteI'm sorry you had to deal with that. I know what that feels like I had a similar experience when I voiced my feelings over baby showers. Hopefully people will keep it in mind. I don't even want to send cards this year... I truly thought that there would be a baby on this years card for sure..
DeleteThis is beautiful The holidays are such a difficult time ... it's so hard to be happy for those around you when your heart is longing.
ReplyDeleteExactly!
DeleteLove you, honey! /M
ReplyDeleteLove you right back, honey!
DeleteHello from ICLW! I love this! It is so true. Christmas surely is tough for infertiles. I have been doing pretty good this year with not taking things to heart. Aside from these darn cards, I hope you have a very Merry Christmas!
ReplyDeleteThank you for stopping by. Merry Christmas for you too!
DeleteLove this one. And I'd like to say I can't believe that this would trigger aggression in others, but I know all too well how poorly people cope with being reminded of their own luck and the lack of awareness many have when it comes to supporting others. I'm grateful there are people like you who are willing to publicly speak to the experiences of 'our tribe' and take the flack that comes with it. Bravo my friend!
ReplyDeleteAnd of course, wishing you happy holidays despite the stupidity of others ;)
Thank you Sadie and happy holidays for you too :-)
DeleteFor the record, I think christmas cards with kids can be nice and cute, I just think people sending them should take a second or two to consider whether they actually will brighten up the life of the recipients.
Thanks for your kind comment on my blog!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry you received angry comments about this drawing. Life would be easier if people accepted it's not always sunshine and roses, not even at Christmas. Hope your holidays also had moments of peace and joy, between the painful memories.
I love it! That's so true. I try to remind myself that people don't think about it being hurtful. But it can be oh, oh, oh, so very hurtful. Especially the ones with the babies that are the same age as my daughter would be. I honestly think people only think of themselves.
ReplyDeleteThank you for stopping by my blog and commenting. For me it took many years to forgive the baby cards sent after we lost our daughter. It can be very very hurtful!
DeleteThis is best! I wish I could send this as a Christmas card to those who have sent me pictures of their cute children growing year after year.. (Very happy comment from Finland)
ReplyDeleteThank you Zaku! I often hope I had dared more, me too. I drew eye opening (tha't at least what they were meant to be) Christmas cards for Simpukka a few years back, you can ask weather they still have those for sale.
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