Drawings on my feelings evoked by infertility and loss
Dec 25, 2013
Logical
In Finland, 5-7 years is (was at the time) the average waiting time in international adoption, for domestic adoption it is even longer. I would love to know if it is about the same in your country?
Ugh, I hate how people often throw out adoption as an easy fix for IF. It is often as hard a road, if not harder that perusing ART. I wish the process was easier.
In my neck of the woods (Canada), I *think* it's a 3-5 year process on average, although at my agency, I don't think they're taking any new prospective parents on to the list b/c the wait times are so long and the prospects so tenuous and unreliable. For domestic adoption, the average wait time at our agency is 1-3 years ... there are currently 150 waiting families on the list with an average of 50 placements a year. It's not a "first come first serve" type situation, so some families wait 4 or 5 years before a baby is placed with them.
As your picture suggests - young families seem to have it easier ... but by the time people realize that ART isn't working, years have gone by ... and then more years go by waiting ... "just adopt" certainly isn't a rational comment!
Thanks for your reply. Sounds a little better than here though. What is ridiculous, is that "they" want you to be young and still make you wait for several years...
Ugh, I hate how people often throw out adoption as an easy fix for IF. It is often as hard a road, if not harder that perusing ART. I wish the process was easier.
ReplyDeleteIn my neck of the woods (Canada), I *think* it's a 3-5 year process on average, although at my agency, I don't think they're taking any new prospective parents on to the list b/c the wait times are so long and the prospects so tenuous and unreliable. For domestic adoption, the average wait time at our agency is 1-3 years ... there are currently 150 waiting families on the list with an average of 50 placements a year. It's not a "first come first serve" type situation, so some families wait 4 or 5 years before a baby is placed with them.
ReplyDeleteAs your picture suggests - young families seem to have it easier ... but by the time people realize that ART isn't working, years have gone by ... and then more years go by waiting ... "just adopt" certainly isn't a rational comment!
Thanks for your reply. Sounds a little better than here though. What is ridiculous, is that "they" want you to be young and still make you wait for several years...
DeleteI think in the US, it's about 1-3 years. So not nearly as bad as Finland by comparison.
ReplyDeleteThat's what I thought, thanks.
DeleteWow, I cannot imagine a wait that long. :/
ReplyDeleteYes… and that's for international adoption, for domestic one it is even longer :-(
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